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[quote=Anonymous]We brought my MIL in town to help us out with two small kids (a 3 year old and a new walker) after a major surgery I needed to have that has me on crutches for 6-8 weeks and unable to drive. She is helping us for 2 weeks. My mother was here for 2 weeks and was extraordinarily helpful and very responsive.

Aside from getting the kids to and from day care (a very short trip), my MIL really hasn't been very helpful. DH says that's just the way she is and we should be grateful for her help driving, but I feel like I'm going crazy watching her all day (I'm able to work remotely) do nothing when there are a million things we have suggested she can help with.

I've asked her if she can start prepping up dinner ahead of picking up the kids (we have made a menu and have groceries) and every single day, she says she prefers to cook after the kids get home from day care, which is really hard because I'm unable to be very helpful with the littler one, who needs more attention, due to my crutches. She also most nights just suggested we get take out (and it has often ended up on our dollar which we could have easily done without her here and with one less person to feed).Since she's so averse to cooking, I know she would never help to prep up some freezer meals for us to have after she leaves. And at dinner time, every single night, I have to say, oh, hey, would you mind bringing some plates over to the table and grab some milk for the kids? Clearly I can't carry things. She just stands there and talks.

Last night, she was home for an hour and a half after the younger one went to bed (DH and I had to run an errand with our older child) and when we got back, the garbage can was full in the middle of the kitchen, like she pulled it out so we knew it needed to be changed, but she didn't change it. So I hobbled over to do it on my crutches and then I tried to finish the dishes and put the soap in to start the washer and she heard me banging around and came over and said "what are you doing over here? you shouldn't be doing that."

I'm working remotely on a limited schedule due to doc appts. and PT and trying to log as many hours as I can so I can bring in some money and every single day she sits there and yaps and yaps. I have tried to tell her I could be more attentive to a conversation if we can take a lunch break together or whatever but she just disregards what I say. She's the kind of person who can talk nonstop about herself. Then I don't log the work hours I have said I'm going to do. We have a small house so aside from sitting on my bed with my computer in my lap, which is what I'm doing now, I can't escape because if I sit at the table, she thinks I'm on break.

I feel like I am asking pointedly about what I need help with and DH won't step in. Do I just bite my lip until she leaves or should he say something?
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