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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks to all for your insight. I totally get it. I just didn’t expect it to happen this soon. DD is my oldest. We’re at a k-8 and while new friends most likely will come in next year the reality is that we’ll be around this same group for a few more years. There have been a few new faces at school this year and DD has mentioned them lately so I do think there’s hope in finding a new set of friends. DD is moving on and I admit I’m having more of an issue with it than she is. I think that’s from not knowing how to deal with the moms. Deep down, tbh, I feel hurt and rejected, too. I know that’s immature but I don’t think anyone enjoys rejection at any age. I’m new to this. Any ideas on how to deal with the moms on an ongoing basis? I’m not looking for how to resolve the situation so we can get back in the group. And I won’t’ talk to any of the moms about their daughters kicking my daughter out the group. Just need suggestions on how to deal with the day to day when we see the moms and girls so it’s not so weird. [/quote]

So you see these moms at dance? Be polite but surface level -- if you have to wait for your DD, it's fine to talk for a few min about weather or traffic and then check your phone a few times. Don't talk about your DD, what she's doing outside of school/dance etc. Reality is if this group has been together since K-1st, some/all of the moms HAVE noticed that your DD suddenly isn't at sleepovers or movie nights that she used to be at, yet no one has done anything to cause their child to include your DD so obviously they don't care/are condoning whatever exclusion is going on. My rule -- if someone doesn't care about my child, I don't talk to them about my child; just give surface level answers when they say "where she's been" -- oh she's around, life is busy etc. If [b]it's about your DD hanging out with these girls for a few min after class or whatever -- take her lead. If she just wants to grab her stuff after class and leave, do that. If she is engaging with them for a few min after, then let her engage and don't drag her away. [/b]And if it gets too annoying, could you all find a different dance class at the same studio or move to a new studio?[/quote]

OP here, Thanks for this. I do the surface convo but then I'm sorta hurrying DD so we can go. I will pull back on that. And yes we will most likely look for a new studio. [/quote]

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