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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should you?

Why would you trust? Why would you think it's going to be alright. That's foolish.

Adultery, Abuse or Addiction = divorce. Get out now[/quote]

I think people are too quick to suggest divorce. Nothing is quite so simple, PP.

OP, I am deeply sorry for what you are going through. Although I don't have direct experience with this, I know that two of my friends went through the experience of being cheated on by their husbands. Friend 1 ultimately got divorced, but Friend 2 sort of changed the marriage dynamic for a few years. She had to put up an emotional wall for a while and detached herself from him, worked on her own life. She found that she felt better when she directed her thoughts toward gainful pursuits, because that was the only way to distract herself from the hatred and anger. So she lost weight, read all the books on her Amazon wish list, engaged more with her friends, and got a new job. Her husband is now afraid to lose her and kisses her ass, and she keeps the power dynamic that way. I don't think she loves him, but I think she does enjoy being treated so respectfully and she gains from keeping her marriage intact (financial stability, the kids have one home, still has a partner to help her with things even if there is no emotional or sexual connection.)[/quote]
She doesn't sleep with him at all?[/quote]

Np. How can you sleep with someone you feel hate and disgust towards? You can desire him but it wont be as passionate ever. Passion comes thru deep emotions and makes you willing to do anything he wants in bed. Guys basically divorce or break up the minute their eyes and dong wander to another woman.[/quote]

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