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[quote=Anonymous]An hour and a half away is way too far for her to provide childcare. That's an easy no. You need to talk with DH about all this--tell him that you want time as a family, that you want to limit family events to, say, two weekend days a month (or what seems good to you). Practice, or even try therapy, saying "no." "No, that won't work for us." "Hmm, we'll think about that." "That's not what our pediatrician recommends." "We can't get together then, but we'll see you at x event in a couple weeks." Etc, etc, etc. And establish early, no drop-ins and no key. Have a spare she can use if she's there babysitting, but it stays at your house. If she drops by, say, "Oh, this isn't a good time," and send her home. At 90 minutes away, I would hope that wouldn't happen. Is there any sympathetic family member out there in the Midwest, say another IL in your generation who might be able to give you some perspective on the dynamic and frequency of gatherings?[/quote]
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