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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, after 2 years of trying to figure out why my sex drive was so low and blaming birth control, having a baby, stress, etc I finally realized it's because my DH is very selfish in bed. If I ask for anything, he blows it off, says he's doing whatever he wants to, pouts, or will just end things because he's suddenly too tired or feels too sick.

I've tried talking to him about it with no luck. I'm now putting into place an "I get mine first then you can get yours" rule but I have a feeling that will lead to no sex at all.

Anyone else deal with this successfully? [/quote]

I dunno about "selfish" but how about just plain "bad in bed"?  I have been a horndog most of my life, and lately I'm about to go out of my head fantasizing about random women I meet.  DW, however, is pretty much too intimidated/insecure to do much of anything...she's even self-conscious about receiving oral.  My drive at home is approaching zero, and not, it's not ED or low T.  I would try to talk to her about it, but pretty much bringing it up triggers massive feelings of inadequacy which just compounds the original problem.  I think I should probably up my game and just initiate and bring the passion and she may respond (she does 50% of the time) but honestly, I'm bringing all of it...if I drop the rope (and don't initiate) NOTHING happens.  I tried this..we went 3 months.  I'm just not all that excited about it...I have to make myself initiate, and getting excited requires a heavy dose of fantasizing about other women.  I really want a sex life with my wife, not other women I fantasize about.  [/quote]

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