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[quote=Anonymous]After 3 1/2 years and some terrible losses, my husband is finally realizing that he is probably never going to be a father and he's coming completely unhinged. He's turned against my entire family because my sister declined to donate her eggs to us. He says awful things to me about my (imperfect but wonderful and loving) parents and siblings. He's not someone who can conceal his feelings and go along to get along, so even if he manages to hold his tongue around them, his attitude is hurtful to them (though they are incredibly patient and understanding) and it's starting to damage my relationship with my family. He won't use these words, but I feel like he wants me to choose him over them. Every time we lost a baby he'd say, "It's okay if it's just you and me," but now he says that the thought of a life without children is devastatingly empty. He is grieving so deeply and is spreading his pain around. Of course, all of this kills any desire I have to be intimate with my husband, let alone keep trying to procreate with him. The stress of this emotional rift is rivaling the pain of all our previous losses and medical treatments. I want to have compassion for him but I can't go on like this. Is there any hope for us?

If you have dealt with infertility, especially if you didn't wind up with children, please share some experience and insight. (p.s., I'm not sure therapy will help him but we're trying it.)[/quote]

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