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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No no no. This is not a "grow up" issue.  It is a mil with a large supply of negativity to hurl at you. I would never advise you just to ignore it, not until after a few well placed times of lashing back at how rude and hurtful etc.  After a few "how dare you" comments from you, maybe next time she will bite her tongue no matter WHAT she thinks.  Otherwise my friend, every insult will get larger and bolder.  Do not create a monster with you kind ways.  Draw a neon bright line in the sand. As soon as she gets over being bitten by you over and over, you'll be amazed how quickly she starts to approve of things.  Take the limp advice from the others and save it for after you have done an outstanding show of strength. Then you can afford to be smiling gracious and generous.
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Sorry, but I've seen friends who have taken this stance.  They end up with the horrible situation where the MIL hates them more and more and the husband is caught in the middle.  Where the husband is forced to choose between his mother and his wife as the battles get bigger and bigger.    Yes, the wife holds control of the grandchildren (and it is terrible to make your children pawns in your power struggle with their grandparent) but ultimately no one wins.  I've seen marriages where the MIL gets cut off.  I've seen marriages that end in divorce and I've seen marriages that just get cold and bitter.   Again, [b]no one wins[/b].
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