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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe I'm misinterpreting your definition of "BFF marriage" but personally, I don't want a "BFF marriage." I had one and I'm divorced. My ex was my best friend and so many people say things like "I'm married to my best friend!!!!" And I am not really impressed. Of course you should be friends with your spouse but your spouse should be your LOVER. Beyond friendship. Way more than BFF's. Maybe doing BFF things like weekends away will help you get to the "lover" thing again, but I personally don't see being best friends as a good thing. Your marriage should be so much more. [/quote]

OP here.  But wouldn't you say that sex is better when you are "in tune" with your DW or DH?  We are not in a sexless marriage but I want her to want to be in the moment with me, not out of duty (but who am I kidding, I would take duty sex any day of the week).  In my small brain, I think that being better friends, or in other words, being better connected with her, will yield better love making and better everything else.  I'm not saying that I want to hang out with my DW every single hour of the day.  I'm just saying that I want to be better connected with her on an emotional level.  [/quote]

PP here. In my own experience (which of course may not be typical of everyone!), being better friends put us basically in the "friend zone." XH became like a good roommate. I didn't want to have sex with him, because I don't usually get naked with my best friends. It's good to connect but I think there is a difference between connecting romantically and connecting in a BFF way. A weekend away? Great way to connect, but do something romantic. Plan a nice dinner at a romantic place. Be physically affectionate. Tell her she's sexy. But don't be just friends![/quote]

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