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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He can have one room. [b] I would not let a 17 year old in the basement alone, but that's personal choice[/b]. I get why he'd want his own space but he gets one room like everyone else.  If he prefers the basement, everything gets moved and you redo his room as the guest room.  But, the playroom remains the playroom.[/quote]

For me, it would depend on the 17-year-old in question's likelihood for using the arrangement to try to isolate himself completely from the rest of the family when home &/or get away with doing things he shouldn't be doing & whether or not the basement has a separate enterance.

The added privacy for him could be really nice (& an incentive to come home during the summer/breaks) when he is a young adult/ in college in a year or two but not right now if he's at all the type of teen who will use it to spend as little time as possible with the family, hide the fact that he is drinking, smoking, doing drugs, sneaking in & out at night, etc.

I'm any case, I agree with everyone saying that, even if you & your DH are confortable with him being on a different level of the house than everyone else & having his room in the basement, he shouldn't be able to simultaneously lay claim to two bedrooms. I'd either ask your DH to talk to him or do so together & let him know that it's fine if he wants to move into the basement but the family also needs a guest room/playroom so he either needs to move all his stuff out of his current room into the basement or just stay in his current room (& bring the stuff he already moved back upstairs to his room). Unless you really need to use  either his room or the basement right a way, tell him he can take a week to decide what to he wants to do & then move his stuff (either completely back into his current room or into the basement) next weekend.[/quote]

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