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My 17 yo stepson (for almost a decade now) lives with us 50% of the time. He has always been very protective of his space. I don't know if this is a reaction to living in two places, or just his personality, but, for example, he doesn't want guests using his room even when he's not here, even though we might put guests in our daughters' room and displace them to the basement floor. (Just an example) I have absolutely no problem with this. It's his personality, and an easy enough thing to respect. I don't go into his room at all when he's not here, and even give him a heads up when I'm planning on cleaning or putting laundry away.

Here's what's come up. We have a finished basement with a guestroom and one bathroom (total of four bedrooms/ 4.5 baths in the house). Recently, he's requested to sleep down in the basement, as it's quieter. Again, no problem. However, now, he's beginning to move stuff down there into both the bedroom and bathroom, effectively taking over two bedrooms and two bathrooms out of the house. The whole family regularly uses the basement and the bathroom down there. So now, he's closing off the area where the guest bedroom is and complaining if people use the basement bathroom. I asked his dad to maybe sit down and discuss if he'd like to move out of his room into the basement room. If he really wants to, we could just move the guest room upstairs, and use it as a play area for the younger kids. It's not as convenient, but it would be fine, as I understand him wanting a quieter, more private space. However, he doesn't want to totally move out either. So now, he's effectively keeping to himself half the bedrooms and half the full baths.

My husband thinks I'm making a huge deal out of nothing. But, is it reasonable to expect that respected private space in the house be limited to one bedroom and bathroom?[/quote]

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