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[quote=Anonymous]Two issues are intertwined in my family at the moment. My parents only know how to speak in a super critical, ala honeymooners way to each other and me (an only child).  Almost immediately after I set out on my own in my first apartment (tiny, and shared with roommates) within the year, my parents decided to retire and relocate. While much of my childhood possessions had been downsized, my college books/papers and sentimental stuff moved with them, as I literally had one closet to my name. Also-they moved into a larger, not smaller home. They are now a retired couple living in a 6,000 sqft McMansion, not including full basement. My boxes, there are about 10 medium sized boxes in all, were moved to the basement of this new home, about 8 years ago. During that time, I married, moved into a larger, but still very small NYC apartment and they made sarcastic, insulting remarks about when were we going to take those boxes, that they should just throw them out, etc...I can see their view, that they are under no obligation to provide storage for my things...but I feel they are acting extremely unkindly in light of my situation. Yes, it would be possible to put the belongings into paid storage. However, I feel like they should recognize how ridiculous that is, given the size of the space they live in vs the 900 sq ft space my family of three live in. We will soon be moving to a SFH, and we are looking forward to it. In a recent phone call, where I was happily discussing getting to the point of starting to think about how and where our current furniture will fit in our new house, they started making harsh remarks about when will we be getting a moving van to come "empty out" their basement. Part of what threw me, was how blind they could be to the part of how overwhelming this previous year has been for us. We are a military family, and have moved twice in the last 9 months with a small child and are finally getting ready to settle down in the DC area for a longer period of time. We had previous conversations about how once we get into this house, we plan to take the boxes, but we haven't even closed yet and they are calling and berating/moralizing the fact that they have held on to these boxes for so long. The tone is never one of looking forward to helping us move into our new house but of a "it's your problem now!" Despite threats to throw it all out over the years if we didn't get it by random dates, that were totally not useful...like, when I first went to them to visit for a week, with our 6 week old baby...by plane, they did not throw it out. (Which I am grateful for.) Arg. I don't know what I'm after. Advice? Support? Venting? Go for it. [/quote]

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