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[quote=Anonymous]Allow yourself to have those feelings and ignore those who say to just let go. I think it's forcing us to just let go that allows those feelings to have a stronger hold on us than ever. As someone who was also abused by a family member who is still alive (so I can never completely be "free" of since I still have to hear about her), I constantly was told to "make a clean slate", "forgive & forget," "get over it." Well, that set me up for abuse again and again. And, finally I realized that I needed to forgive MYSELF -- I need to forgive myself for having rushes of feelings of sadness and fear when I did nothing wrong and was an innocent child. When the feelings arise, which they do, I hug myself, give myself a long breath, and tell myself I am RIGHT to have those feelings and am doing nothing wrong.[/quote]
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