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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I had abusive parents. I got out, became a functioning adult, and thought I was doing great. No drug or alcohol issues, good job, healthy and loving relationship. Well, the birth of my first kid threw me for a loop. In addition to the normal post-partum emotions and the sleep deprivation that comes along with having a newborn, I think I was just in mourning for my childhood. What helped was talk therapy, parenting classes so that I could learn what to do as a parent (since I never had good role models in my own parents), and a lot of support from my spouse. Also, cutting myself some slack -- when I started to feel really angry about something, I learned to recognize when I was feeling that way and say to myself, "Ok, you need to take a break. Go lie down in a darkened room for 10 minutes and just BREATHE."

I am much better in terms of my sadness and anger now that my kids are a little older, but I do still sometimes experience it -- like, for instance, hearing a friend of mine the other day talk about how her mom is flying across the country to come help her take care of her baby for the next 3 months. So good for my friend and I'm happy for her, but it made me feel very sad, jealous, and then angry that I cannot lean on my own parents for such support. I have to kind of just give myself permission to feel sad at those times.  Because it IS sad, after all.

I don't know if it will ever fully go away - I think it's more just controlling my reaction to these feelings. [/quote]

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