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[quote=Anonymous]DD is in 6th grade and is interested in trying out to be a cheerleader. DW has really taken that interest and run with it -- camps all summer, private lessons, etc. Now that tryouts are come up she's basically talking about it non-stop, e-mailing the coach for more details about tryouts, etc. etc. etc. etc. She's actually quote good and looks the part of the stereotypical cheerleader, so I suppose she'll have a decent chance of making the squad.

DD is also on a travel sports team. I've expressed my preference that I would prefer to see her performing on the athletic field herself instead of cheering for boys performing on the athletic team. This is just how I was raised and what I believe in, and while I recognize that cheering itself is very athletic, I don't think the middle school version of it is much more than a popularity contest. My other child -- who is not at all the cheerleader type and probably will be more of a non-comformist type in high school --  confirms my own experience, that the cheerleaders tend to be the "mean girls" in the school with a penchant for mocking others. And I'm wary of my child falling into the crowd.

DW, however, is incapable of even having a rational conversation about the possibility that the culture itself will be negative. And it seems far more important to her than DD that DD makes the team. I cannot figure out what's the driving force here -- DW was not a cheerleader in school -- but it feels almost like she's trying to secure social status for our daughter or something. Like she wants to live vicariously or something. It's odd.

I don't know what I'm getting at. I've made my views on this known once, but I also will support my child in whatever she wants to do. I guess we'll see how it plays out. I'm just really stunned at seeing a side of my wife I've never seen before and it's making me uneasy.

Any thoughts?[/quote]

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