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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an adoptee who has met my birth family (they had no idea of my existence- long story).  This may sound dramatic, but[b] I would seek adoption-related counseling [/b]and not crowd source from DCUM.  Most of the posters here aren't a part of the adoption triad and don't have the relevant experience to advise you.  The reason I say to get counseling is because you should think very carefully about your reasons for doing this and the impact it can have on everyone- not just you but on your dad's siblings and their families.  Not saying you shouldn't contact them, but once you open Pandora's box, things can never go back to where they were.  My reunion story is a happy one with ongoing contact with my birth family, but there are a lot of implications and consequences I hadn't considered, and I see similar stories in the adoption reunion group I'm a part of.

Good luck and I'm sorry for the loss of your father.[/quote]

Another adoptee here, and I agree.  It's possible that your father's siblings never knew about his existence at all.  It's possible that your dad made an intentional choice not to seek out his birth parents or biological siblings.  It's possible that there are some issues in the siblings's family you have no way of knowing anything about.  You should seek the guidance of a professional who can help you think through some of the options and reactions.  And definitely don't do it on Facebook.  [/quote]

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