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[quote=Anonymous]Wow.  You might just be looking for me.  :)

My mom was a "girl who was sent away" in the early 1960's.  She was raped at age 18 and became pregnant. My grandmother didn't believe it was rape, and it didn't matter either way, because they were Irish Catholic and it was a shameful secret so she was sent away to a Catholic home for unwed mothers.  She gave birth and wasn't even able to hold the baby.  Keeping my sister was never an option.

My mom went into a tailspin afterward.  Rejected by her family, she drank a lot and slept around for a couple of years.  And became pregnant again, and went away again.  This time, the nuns were 10x more cruel to her.  It didn't matter that the first pregnancy was a result of rape.  It didn't matter that she was traumatized and broken by her child being ripped from her.  They were awful.  My mom said she barely remembered those months.  And when she went into labor early, she didn't hear the baby cry.  She never knew if it was a boy or girl or lived or died.

My sister bribed a source at catholic Charities and found us about 20 years ago.  Her presence in our lives is a huge joy and gave my mother so much peace.  But she would not touch the idea of me trying to find out what happened to the second baby - she has so much more guilt and shame about that pregnancy as well as guilt that she may have hurt the baby by drinking before she knew she was pregnant-  and Catholic Charities won't tell me anything or allow me to join a sibling registry without her permission.

If I have a brother or sister out there, even if they died, I would be happy to meet their children.  I would help answer any questions they have.  I would grieve that their parent never met my mom, who had a good heart and was full of love.  I would welcome any contact that might bring us peace or joy.

I don't know if that helps, but as someone who has been to this rodeo once and may still have another sibling out there, I welcome contact on FB or mail.[/quote]

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