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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Motivated to write my will. My kids will get the bulk of any funds and most physical items worth anything like nice furniture. I'd want my DH to get my rings. I plan to leave sentimental items of limited financial worth to siblings. But I have a LOT of them. Is it fair to leave nothing or trinkets to those siblings with whom I am not close(that includes a full bio sibling, the two steps, and one of the foster sibs) or is it wrong to pick and choose? I don't want to do it by category of sibling because that is not how we were raised. I am closer to two half-sibs and one foster sub than all the rest. I think they are ones that would treasure a momento of me for its emotional value over the monetary worth.[/quote]

OP-    I feel like you are overthinking this.  [b]I feel like most people would not expect or trinkets or mementos from dead siblings[/b].   Are you trying to create drama among your siblings?[/quote]

+1 I am very close to my two siblings and each of them as a partner and a child. I would never expect to receive something tangible from them (even of no value) if they die (I am the oldest, so hopefully I will be the first) because I do certainly do not need it to remember them and everything they have, even personal, should go to their families, kids in particular.  for the same reasons I did not think of leaving anything for them in my will.  like them, I already have mementos from when we were little, photographs, an old shirt that both me and my sister used, a saxophone both me and my brother played (and if her daughter wants to play it when she is older, he just needs to ask and I will give it to him right away, like he gave me his clarinet when my DD turned 8 and started playing).  unless there is something very specific that you know one of your sibling would like (when my 90 old grandma died she had left everything to husband and kids, except for  a tiny rosary that had belonged to her mother - she left that to her sister, since it was the only intimately personal item of their mother that was left and we thought it made sense) , if you are close to them and share a life with them I don't see why you think you should leave them something, especially if this results in leaving something to some siblings and nothing to others. 
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