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[quote=Anonymous]For the last year DH and I have been sleeping in separate bedrooms.  It started when one of our larger dogs needed a surgery and was confined to our first floor.  Recovery time was 3 months and I would sleep in the room with him.  After the recovery, I never moved back into our bedroom to sleep.  I still have all my clothes in the closet of the master and use the master bath to shower, brush my teeth, make up etc.. We still have sex at least once if not twice a week.  We do not have children.  When family or friends visit (5-6 times a year) I sleep back in the master with him.  Why dont I just move back in full time?  Few reasons- 1. DH and I are on different schedules.  I always went to bed about 2 hours before him and up about 2 hours earlier in the morning. He would wake me up when getting in bed. If I wake up in the middle of the night I like to put the TV on to fall back asleep-this has always been a problem for him.  I have done that since I was a teenager and its difficult for me to fall asleep without any background noise, he likes silence.  2. I get really hot at night ( Im in my mid 40s and think its only going to get worse.) 3. He snores, loud.

I never thought it was bad until I had lunch with some coworkers.  The one man there thought it was a great situation.  After lunch, when I was alone with my boss, she told me that she was concerned and eventually she thought it would lead to a disconnect between us.   "We are missing out on pillow talk."   We never really had that because of our schedules.  Also DH has never been a morning nookie person unfortunately, so not missing out on that since it never happened before.  We are affectionate.  Hugs and kisses hello, good bye and good night.

I should also add that in the master bedroom we only have a queen size bed.  It was expensive and we bought it 3 years ago  when we were in a smaller place.   I dont want to buy a king yet because we are planning to move again next summer and we would like to buy a new bedroom set with a king then.  We have had to move frequently with the military but he retires next year and we are going to be living permanently down south.  I feel its a temporary situation until we have the comfort of a more spacious bed.  DH opinion is that I can sleep with him any night I want but if I am more comfy in the other bed for now then he is fine with it. Also noting him being in the military, we have spent months, even over a year apart once so I was used to not sleeping together all the time.  Boss thinks thats all the more reason to be together now. He won't be deployed before retirement again, so not worried about him being away for long periods of time anymore.

Is this so weird and do you think we are heading towards a disconnect in the future?[/quote]

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