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[quote=Anonymous]I've noticed that DH is super quick to place blame even when it isn't warranted. Here are two instances that happened tonight:

1. We all had dinner and then went to watch the last few minutes of the Giants/Cowboys game. Most of the food/dishes had been cleared but DS's corn cob was still on his plate on the table. The dog got it and we had to quickly get him to drop it before he swallowed it (he has serious stomach issues). We're in the middle of trying to pry it from his mouth and DH starts telling me that it was my fault because I didn't fully clear the table. I told him we needed to focus on getting the dog to drop the corn cob and then we could talk about it. But he kept saying it over and over. We finally got the dog to drop it and everything was fine but DH couldn't let it go.

2. DS's birthday party is coming up soon and I had ordered favors from an online store and they came yesterday. Tonight after DS went to bed I opened the box and brought one in to show DH. All he said was "well, you ordered them", in a way that voiced disapproval. There was nothing wrong with the favor.

In the first instance, I could see that somebody would be blamed for not fully clearing the table, but it automatically had to be me. The type of placing blame in the second instance is one that happens very frequently. It seems to be a very strange reaction to me, like he's looking to pick a fight or something, when I'm not even saying anything that requires blame to be placed. There's no problem in these situations, but DH wants to find one and wants me to know it's my fault.

It's frustrating because it often stops me in my tracks because it's such a WTF reaction. And even when it's somewhat understandable for blame to be placed, like in the dog incident, his need to do that while we're still smack in the middle of dealing with the more important issue (getting the cob out of the dog's mouth) is strange to me. But it seems that his priority is to be able to blame me as quickly as possible.

Does this happen to anyone else? [/quote]

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