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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is really tough. IMO your first priority is your kids and husband. If their visits are too stressful, then they should stop until your parents choose to control their behavior. I would let them know in the most loving, kind way you can, and don't engage the crazy. You aren't cutting them off, but you are going to limit their visits to weekly phone calls for a while.

Hope this helps - I'm not sure this is much of a solution. I'm really sorry you are dealing with this.[/quote]

OP here. I know, this is a hard one. I don't want to cut off my kids' grandparents, but Jesus, these people are impossible. They're just not fun to be around. They've never been easy-going or lighthearted.

I wish we could just be able to enjoy a meal and a bottle of wine with them when they visit and laugh about whatever but everything is always fight fight fight, tell DH and I how to live, tell us what we're doing wrong, lecture about family values, the needs of children, fight fight fight.

To add to the awkwardness, my mother has become one of those people obsessed with family titles. Not sure where this comes from. When she leaves a voicemail, she says things like "This is your mother calling." Or, "I am calling to speak to my grandchildren." Or, "Hello, daughter, it would be nice to hear from you." When she speaks to DH I've heard her say things like, "Of course I care. I'm your MIL."

DH and I have long weeks with work and childcare and when the weekend comes, we just want to enjoy ourselves. Having to deal with difficult grandparents is just... ugh. When there's a visit from them on the horizon, I literally start to feel nervous. I've been encouraging DH to find something else to do when they visit just to spare him. [/quote]

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