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[quote=ThatBetch]I didn't say much to my kids (then 3 and 7) when ex left, mostly because he didn't say much about why he'd left and I honestly didn't know. But as time went on, and the emotional abuse kept happening (just from a distance, via email, etc.), my kids kept noticing the effects on me and they asked (and continue to ask) questions.

It's hard. I don't want to bash their dad, and I don't need to vent to my kids, but when they ask me honest questions (about anything), I've always tried to give them a full answer, and the answer here isn't "we mutually agreed that it was in our best interest to separate". I've shifted to giving them an age-appropriate version of the truth, just as I would for any other question.

When they ask me about sex, or bodily functions, or taboo topics, I give them an age-appropriate answer and try to help them find resources (books, mostly) that will inform them. Relationships are a human thing, and relationships ending will be something my kids will eventually experience, so why should this piece of their education be any different than the others?

Again, though- I work very hard to make sure that my answers are as impersonal/clinical as I can make them. This isn't about taking shots at ex. This is about informing and educating my kids, per their request(s).

If your kids don't understand the language, teach them.[/quote]

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