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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What DH did was disrespectful and abusive if done in front of the child.  But your approach, unfortunately isn't great either for a 7 year old.  Simplicity and natural consequences are best.  If the child is already out of control, they can't stop and reason with you in that moment, let alone be made responsible for how everyone is is upset.  That's gulit-tripping them and not appropriate.  If the child was jumping on and off the couch, just say firmly, "Larla, couches are not for jumping on. Please stop or you'll have to go to your room."  Next jump, say, "It's time to go to your room now."  And help escort her out if necessary.  Give a short time out.  The rule of thumb is a minute per year of age.

I recommend reading a good parenting book at minimum. "Parenting With Love and Logic" is good, but a parenting class that you can go to together would be best.  Ask your pediatrician's office for a recommendation.

https://www.loveandlogic.com[/quote]

Yes it was in front of the kids. Also thanks for your recommendations but what I did was appropriate because DS got upset and said he hated us. I think the appropriate consequence is to explain how words like that your family. In my opinion that's not inappropriate parenting. I'm not perfect but it seems important to point out how words make people feel.[/quote]

No, the PP *is* correct. You need a different approach to deal with the heat of the moment. That is not the time to try to have a rational discussion with a 7 yo.

Another book recommendation is Setting Limits with Your Strong Willed Child. [/quote]

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