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[quote=Anonymous]Yes they are probably both "whipped."  It's that first love or first lust or first crush.  Whatever you want to call it.   The feelings are intense.   Emotions as well as physical.    That's why I don't want my son dating til 16 at least (lol I know I'm unreasonable here).

There are several things I'd talk to him about.  I'd talk first about sex.   I don't know if you've made it clear to him what your expectations are about that.  I've told my son since age 9 I don't want him having sex until he's out of high school.  Again, I know it will likely happen sooner, but I am clear with my expectations and reasoning behind them.  (If he gets someone pregnant that young, it could be a disaster).  And also tell him I realize he may have sex before that.  But I expect it to be with someone he loves, not just someone who will.

Talk about birth control, and that he needs to use condoms every single time, even if his girlfriend insists she's using protection.   They should be using 2 forms of birth control every time.

Talk about emotions, how huge they can be, and how they can go bad quickly.   How does he think he can handle the huge love feelings or (unfortunately) the huge heartbreak feelings, and still manage to meet his school needs.   Talk about "her" emotions.   Is one way more in love with the other?  Does one seem way more in control than the other?  Does he feel they are both respectful of one another's feelings and boundaries?

Talk about how they argue and resolve conflict.   Are they respectful to one another when that happens?  Are they kind to one another?

Talk about sexting, and that you don't want him to ask for or receive any pics.  They are forever, he doesn't control them as much as he may think he does, and they can get both of them in trouble in ways he may not envision.

And finally, tell him you expect no sex in your house.  (If that's what you want).   Public displays of affection can be uncomfortable to others in the house, and can be inappropriate at times.   He shouldn't be doing anything with his girlfriend in front of anyone that he wouldn't do in front of Grandma (or whoever would make him cringe).

Tell him you support him, and want him to be happy, and he can ask you if he has any questions or concerns.

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