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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I commend you for recognizing what is going on with your DD and feeling that this might not be a healthy friendship for her.  Unfortunately, most parents don't really know the relationships there tweens/teens have and what impact it has on their DD. Here is some advice-the first being - don't judge your dd- she already probably has that from her peers.  Have a conversation with her to see if she can get it herself. This is more of a self discovery process than a parent advising their dd.  Ask her if she could make up a friend to have what kind of qualities would they have? How would she want them to treat her?  Write this down. Then ask her to close her eyes and imagine this friend with her- ask her how does it feel to have a friend like this with her?  What is her and her friend doing together? How is her friend treating her?   Then ask her to open up her eyes and talk to her about the friends she has now.  Ask her to close her eyes again and imagine she is with her friend the queen bee (of course don't say that - just use her name) then ask her what are they doing together? How is she treating her? What does it feel like?  Then talk about which felt better- I'm assuming it will be the imaginary friend she created.  Then ask are there any friends like that in your class or school? Would you like to get to know them better? If she says yes maybe you can invite her over or make plans with the girl. This can be a pretty powerful exercise.  Hope you find this helpful.

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Np here - thank you!! That is excellent.  Is there a book that helped you or are you in the field?  I'd love to learn more techniques.[/quote]

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