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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. A lot of context I have not shared make the situation more burdensome. But that does not matter. I am completely supportive of DH and never complain to him. Came on here because where else can you complain about something you know you have no right to complain about?

I work full time, have a toddler and preschooler. No family in the area to help. We are saving our money because we will be paying for the funeral expenses. FIL has been an abstentee parent for the past 15 years, blew through all of his money, does not have insurance, does not have any care, refuses any help outside of the family. He is stubborn and wants to die on his terms. That's fine- but it has left a lot of burden on my husband. And in turn- on me. My husband is helping because he is his father and he loves him. But his absence and decisions over the years have left me with little love for FIL. I love my DH and support him through this. But it is difficult. That's all I wanted to get off my chest.

As others have said- these are the "for worse" times. And they suck. And I guess I was just not prepared to deal with it all. I'm trying. And I think- I am doing ok. Just needed to vent a bit online so that in real life I can be everything my husband needs me to be. Thanks for the helpful advice and the tough love. It is all helpful to hear.

And honestly- I promise I know that I have little right to complain. My husband is going through so much more. But that does not mean that I am not allowed to be stressed or overwhelmed at times. I am not perfect and it is a tough situation. Harder for my husband- absolutely. My job is to make it easier for him. But it is definitely hard on me too.[/quote]

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