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[quote=Anonymous]Another sad marital sex post...

How do the wives here cope with a DH that has a lower sex drive? I am 29, DH is 33. We've been married 6 years and have a 15 month old.

Ever since a few months into our marriage, I've had a higher sex drive than him.  This has caused serious sexual frustration on my part, that I've gently talked to him about.  He hasn't much changed.  About 2 years ago I simply stopped initiating sex, mostly because it really hurt being rejected so much.  We're down to sex about 3 times a month - once every weekend except the week I'm on my period (very predictable).

Well, last week we had a particularly fun (I thought) night so I tried to initiate sex two days later by cozying up to him and kissing his neck.  He quickly shut me down saying something about me being on my period (I wasnt). The harsh way he shut me down literally made my stomch drop and after a few minutes I snuck away into the bedroom and cried to myself (mostly from embarassment, partly from frustration).  Fast forward to tonight and he starts initiating and I get a bit bold and tell him to be rough and pull my hair (figuring he must be in an usual mood to initiate on a weekday).  He ofcourse ignores my request.  I playfully bit his cheek and he lost his erection (literally has never happened before), and I tell him to lay back and I gave him a BJ. I feel incredibly embarrased for asking him to be rough since he clearly didnt want to do it.

I give BJs before every time we have intercourse (and enjoy it too!) and anal when he wants it.  I am up for literally anything that he wants to do but he does not want to have sex more than once a week.  I figure if I cant change the frequency, maybe I can try to be more adventurous but that doesnt seem to entice him.  I would be extremeley happy with any type of sex 2-3x a week.

I am a biglaw attorney and DH is an incredible father and awesome support system for me.  He makes me laugh and we have a great time together.  I know we lead hectic lives, but I want to make sex a priority. Even if its just a sext here or there during the day.

I don't know where to go from here.  I would love to know the feeling of a W who feels desired by her DH, who wants to grab her from behind or turn her around and give her a kiss.  Reading the posts of all the men on this site in sexless marriage makes me incredibly sad for them and myself - I wish my DH was like some of you men in this forum; I would be the happiest wife.

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