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[quote=Anonymous]hrm, there are some things for which I would draw a line in the sand.  and others I would let go.    "We would love to have you stay with us for a week, but no longer."  You are actually in control of this.   (Make up a reason if you feel like you have to have one but you don't have to have one.  "it's too much of a disruption" is a fine reason).

Criticism of your house.  "It's my house, Dad.  If you don't like it, you can leave, but please try to be polite.  We're raising our children to have good manners when they are guests in someone's home."  repeat as necessary.

Gifts on the other hand, I think you should just let go.  Thank them graciously and then bundle most of it off to good will as soon as you can cycle it out of your kdis' hands.  Always be gracious about gifts, no matter how ill-thought-out.   (And I do this everytime my inlaws visit, too).  At most, you can find ways to politely suggest gifts of experience, rather than clutter.

You don't say how old the kids are.  Have you considered leaving the kids with the grandparents for a few days if they can all handle that?  plenty of bonding time for them; time away for you!

And, um, you may find it is easier to tolerate for shorter periods of time.  Check your own tone for defensiveness/criticism/etc.  Suggest family outings.  Easier to gin up this kind of tolerance and energy for shorter visits, which then become more fun for everyone.[/quote]

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