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[quote=Anonymous]My spouse has been on travel for more than half the summer.  I can't ever plan anything and be  able to count on him being home. He easily travels 80 nights a year (22 this summer since school ended), and I am tired of being the default parent and handling everything.

I feel guilty about it when I think about parents who are deployed, or who travel every week Mon- Fri, who probably have it even harder.

Compounded with this, he has many late night events which are typical for his job.

It's been many years like this, and I'm just done. He says this is just what his job is and he can't change it.

I'm wondering if I would be happier alone at this point.  I try to make time to do things for myself, but hiring a sitter all the time just isn't the same as having your spouse home. I outsource stuff - housekeeper, lawn, general repairs - but it is tiring managing it all.

We've done marriage counseling. I've suggested it again and he's all "sure, let's do it." But he doesn't take the initiative to schedule it, and I know when we get there he'll just wait and look at me to "find out what is wrong."

What is the breaking point? How will I know? I care about him. I just don't want to live like this anymore. I want a spouse who is happy to be at home and eager to take on the day-to-day responsibilities of being a parent and partner. I don't see that ever happening here.[/quote]

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