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[quote=Anonymous]A well written post and I sympathize as I too have a 12 year old son of that mold.  I've paid for him to take private lessons, which he enjoyed, but there was never any carryover to at-home practice.  Like yours, he has said that he practices hard, but I've never really seen it.  He also wants to skip team practices if he has too much homework, which would be fine if it was true, but it's really more of a time management thing, or lack thereof, for him.

Also like you, I don't push hard, because he has to want to improve on his own.  Some parents may subscribe to the tiger parent approach, but I feel that could lead to resentment.  Hard to know and hindsight is 20-20.

The reality is that my son isn't motivated by much of anything.  I think time will teach him a lesson here.  He may reach 9th grade and decide he wants to try out for a high school sport, but the fact that he didn't work hard in the preceding years will doom him.  A tough lesson if that happens, but we can only encourage our kids so much before we let them lead the way.  [/quote]

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