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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I rarely see him due to finances mostly.   He had been living on student loans and I am on a small budget.   I must not have been as strict as I should have regarding chores so yes, to an extent I feel that I definitely am to blame for his behavior.     I acknowledge this.   My main question is [b]what do I do NOW??[/b]??

I cannot re-do my past mistakes, so am I doomed to his messy ways for the rest of my life?   If so, yikes![/quote]

My son is 24 also. There are "house rules" in any house I live in. Rules like "if you make a mess, you clean it up." and "if you see a mess, you clean it up."  OP, have you gone to visit him? Is this how he treats his living space when nobody is there to clean it up?  I assume he will pull his shit together when he gets a romantic interest. Nobody will be romantically attracted to someone who lives like a slob.

I think you should say something to him after he leaves. Jason I love getting to see you, but the way you treat the house is really disrespectful and immature of you. You track dirt inside on the bottoms of your feet, you leave garbage all over the house, don't clean up your dishes or food after cooking or eating, and these things need to stop. I would NEVER come to your home and make it a mess. Next time you come, you can't do that to this house." Then next time he's coming, write out a list of "house rules."  Then if he doesn't respect those, after he leaves tell him it breaks your heart but next time he comes to town to visit he'll have to stay at a hotel or with friends.[/quote]

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