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[quote=Anonymous]Spending some time apart from each other is not the same thing as "taking a break" from your marriage.  I go on at least two trips a year without my wife, and she does the same without me.  One of us stays home with our son to hold down the fort.

If you all have had a very rough patch, then spending some time apart to cool off, collect your thoughts and try to see if you still do want to try, then that's one thing.  Of course nobody is "on break" from being married: you remain committed, you remain faithful, etc.

If your husband is emotionally abusive - "hot temper" leading to walking on eggshells - you may find you suddenly feel 1000x better when you are away from him for a week or two.  That may allow the fog to lift.  You may find that you really do not want to try to make it work.  Or you may find that with some space for both of you to decompress from the stress that the infertility battles have caused, you are both ready to pick back up again.  Maybe he gets a wake up call that he needs to control his behavior (you say not AT you but NEAR you) - you allude to some issues with your family (are you enmeshed? are they up his ass and in his business inappropriately - lacking boundaries?).  A cooling off period apart with little contact lets everyone reflect a bit and calm down, and you may find you do want to try to make things work.

That's not what the poster in the first thread was asking for - he was just walking out on marriage and family. [/quote]

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