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[quote=Anonymous]Ask you DH what he needs from you right now.  Do it.  Be completely an open book.  Don't lie about anything, ever.  Do not ever see EA guy again and tell DH if you run into him or he tries to contact you.  Do what you say you're going to do.  Consistency is the key to rebuilding trust.  Slip up - and you start all over again just like its Day 1.

Tell your DH how lucky you are to have him.  How lucky you are he is sticking by you in spite of his pain.  Be emotionally aware of triggers for him.  Be concerned. And empathetic about his torment.

Be affectionate and initiate sex genuinely.  Be consistent with fulfilling your responsibilities at home.

Even though this was an EA treat it like it was a real affair - after all it had all the things real affairs have - the shared intimacy, the sneaking around, the lies ..... It's the lies which blow up the foundation of your marriage anyway, not really the final act of tab B into slot A.  But don't kid yourself.  Many EAs escalate into physical affairs.[/quote]

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