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If his BMI is in the healthy range, you shouldn't worry too much, OP.

I am on the edge of the healthy range, and sometimes dip into underweight, but that's my normal weight, and where I feel good at. Perhaps your boyfriend is the same way.

Why doesn't he like his shape? Is it thin yet not muscled? In that case, he should exercise to gain muscle and eat more protein.

I think PP is right that you sound anxious and he sounds depressive. Not a good combination, when you think that your future biological children might inherit those traits, which are highly inheritable.

So think long and hard about this. You want a mate that's healthy in mind and body.[/quote]
OP here. He doesn't like his shape because he thinks his stomach sticks out. It doesn't, to everyone else it seems like a normal, average body size. Once he even almost deleted an Instagram post because, according to him, "oh no! I didn't use the shot that makes my calves look skinny."

Also, a bit OT but to you and the PP suggesting I have anxiety...I'm not trying to argue that or deny that I could possibly have something going on, but I am genuinely confused as to where in my post it seems as though rational concern turns instead into really bad anxiety. I assumed that most people would be worried if a loved one had an eating disorder, especially when they have a family member with one. What seems particularly over the top in my case? (Genuine question, not snark)[/quote]

Sorry if I seemed overly harsh - that was not my intention. What stands out from your post is that you are worried and concerned about your boyfriend's state of mind, when the hard numbers and evidence don't reveal any red flags. OK, he thinks about his looks a lot - that's a bit narcissistic and shallow, but needn't be an actual disorder.

You are primed for anorexia because of your family history, when the problem could be elsewhere, if there is one.
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