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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry OP - it sounds like a tough situation. Have you brought it up with your dad? It's not too late but things may not change either.

My own parents have been on and off distant over the years. My mom, who has been an alcoholic off and on since I was a child comes and goes, mainly depending on if she is with someone. She was around and sober when our kids were babies and DH traveled a lot for work so that was great. She has a very warm and loving side and a terrible side. My dad is much more in touch after my stepmom passed away a few years ago. He just didn't feel the need to reach out much while they were married. Now it's easier to call him and have an actual conversation as long as we steer clear of politics, lol.

I did a lot of volunteer work overseas to escape my crazy family in late HS/early college back in the days when there was barely phone service in much of Latin America and I might send/receive just a few letters in a summer there. My parents generally never knew if I had arrived or was still alive during my travels. This lack of communication and having to wait weeks for letters to arrive between US/Europe while studying abroad definitely had an impact.

DD who I'm very close with and is now 16 has spent many years training in something she loves and spends 4-6 weeks away each summer. Even with the ease of social media, she chooses to not stay super in touch while away. I foresee that she may not be in touch very often as an adult - same goes for DS because he is male and at 14 now is super self-centered. For various reasons I don't see that changing a lot as he gets older. We shall see.

We gave them both a lot of freedom as children which has lead to a greater sense of independence and I foresee that this may lead to less interaction. I do think social media makes it so much easier to stay more in touch. Hopefully that will pay off for us as parents because I would like to keep in touch since now kids and parents often live very far from each other.[/quote]

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