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Some of my in-laws have Asperger's, my husband and son have tendencies, and this sounds very similar.

Does your fiance exhibit the symptoms of social awkwardness and lack of empathy? The fact that he is not interpreting his son's symptoms correctly and not taking them seriously speaks volumes about his own lack of perception and social processing.

If this indeed comes from his side of the family, your future children might have symptoms as well. 
And let me tell you from personal experience, it's HARD to live with people like this. You will feel as if your feelings are not taken into account and you will live daily with their rigid thinking and inflexibity.

So before marrying this guy please think long and hard about this. Like all autism spectrum disorders, this is not curable. Adults and older children who are aware of their deficits and highly motivated to change can work with a therapist to learn how to observe and correctly interpret social, verbal, and non-verbal clues, but the later you start, the harder it gets. This 11 year old should be evaluated by a psychologist ASAP.
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No one in my fiance's side of the family, that I've met, acts like this. He has a large family that I've spent quite a bit of time around. We were just at a large family function with tons of his extended family, 50+ people. It was out of town and we were there for 4 days. Everyone noticed this behavior. It got to the point where towards the end of our stay, they were stepping in and saying things to his son because my fiance wasn't.

I'm not sure about his mother's side of the family, if they have any autism. I think my fiance is in complete denial because he is literally the opposite of his son. He was athletic and social and popular. So he's trying to accept that his son won't grow up to be like him, which is great. But he's not seeing that it's not just that his son and his son's interests aren't different than him, it's his behavior that's abnormal.[/quote]

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