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[quote=Anonymous]In my 20s, I dated someone for nearly 7 years.  By the end of the relationship things were bad: he was emotionally out of control and had hit me twice.

We have been out of touch for more than a decade now.  I am happily married with 2 kids.  He got married a couple years ago, no kids.

A mutual friend reached out to let me know he has cancer and needs support.  I found the ex's blog -- he remains a negative person and even before the diagnosis was full of self-pity.  I hope for the sake of people who are still close to him that he makes a recovery, but I also sincerely do not want this person anywhere near my life.  Our mutual friend says my attitude is "shockingly terrible" because the ex may not survive.  Am I a bad person for wanting to leave the past in the past, or do I suck it up and reach out to offer my condolences/support?

(I actually do not know for sure that the ex has any interest in hearing from me.  He attacked me on his blog many years ago -- not by name, but many of our friends from college knew that he was referring to me.)

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