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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Background: I manage our finances and money is tight (but we're not poor).  We have only budgeted for one trip per year.

My brother got married in California this summer (not a destination wedding--he and his wife live there).  We knew about it well in advance and I was able to shop for cheap flights, hotel deals, etc.  We ate some nice meals, spent time with my family and did some touristy things.

Now that DH, I and the kids are back, MIL has decided (and DH agrees) that we all need to go visit DH's grandmother in Florida next month.  I'm pissed, because 1) the short notice means I'll end up paying more for the flight & hotel, 2) some of DH's family are literally crazy (willfully untreated mental illness), 3) I wouldn't have spent so much money in California if I knew we would be taking another trip, and 4) I have to reschedule a couple of hard-to-get medical appointments

But we just spent a bunch of time and money to be with my family, so I have to suck it up and go along, right?  It's not like we can't pay our mortgage if we do this trip.[/quote]

I'd start with the budget.  Remind him that you budgeted carefully to be able to attend the wedding, including a lot of advance work researching fares to get good deals.  Show him the estimates for a trip next month to Florida.  Suggest that it doesn't really have to be next month; with more advance notice, it would be possible to shop for cheap flights and hotels in Florida.

And frankly, if I or my kids had necessary medical appointments that could not be easily rescheduled, I would not to go.  [/quote]

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