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[quote=Anonymous] You are in the wrong to be a rationally furious about this, but this is not what you are actually upset about. You are upset because you are stuck in the position of doing everything and treating your husband like an employee who needs to be fired.

You need to go to couples therapy and individual therapy to work through this. The reality is that you are micromanaging an awful lot here (such as giving him directions three times instead of simply giving him the address and trusting that he is a grown man you can find his own way there  even without GPS).  At that level of supervision on your part, he is not making any choices and he is not a part of the vision you are trying to pursue. If you want him to be a team player, then you will have to give him an equal share in the decision-making. Are you ready for  him to say that some of the things you worry about and prioritize don't matter to him? Could you treat that opinion as valid instead of automatically assuming he's just too lazy to prioritize those things?

You ultimately need to figure out how to communicate as a couple well enough to come up with agreed-upon priorities  and tasks that both of you together have decided need to be accomplished. Then you can work out a fair split for those tasks. Right now if you present your husband with your to do list and ask him to take over half of it, he is simply going to tell you that most of the tasks on your list  are unnecessary and the conversation will stall right there. [/quote]

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