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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am home on maternity leave and my MIL is staying 3 weeks to help and FIL shows up the final week of the visit.

My husband and his family are "people of few words," and they are not super close. so I end up babbling some story or carrying the dinner conversations and questions All The Time. It is getting exhausting. Besides my portmortem exhaustion.
I tried out a couple meals where I deliberately said nothing and sure enough, no one else said anything either!
It's bizarre, I grew up in a family of four where there was always talking going on at the table, in the car, at the ballgame.  And certainly when we get together nowadays. But here, this week, it's like no one has a thought or opinion or whatever.

Can anyone relate??[/quote]

I can empathize. My spouse and his family have little to say about anything, ever.  It's been about 5+ years of visits and I never know what they think about anything - dinner, a day-trip, the city, etc.   I too got trained not to talk around them, and frankly stopped trying or caring.

Two bad things - My husband does not know how to talk about anything but his office work. I believe this started at home growing up, not hearing normal conversations about the day, scheduling, household matters (hi honey, let's do our taxes this evening. Hi honey, let's plan that spring break trip. Hi honey, want to teach your son to ride a bike or throw a ball?).  He seems to think it's all woman's work and checks out.

Other bad thing - No conflict resolution skills.  If there is a mistake, it is ignored. If someone brings it up, they are ignored. If that angers them, then they become the mistake.  The actual mistake never gets addressed.  Too much avoidance of needed conversations.

Nowadays with two kids, we continue to never have even a semi-meaningful conversations with them.  They skype and just GooGoo GaaGaa with the toddlers, I ask my spouse how they're doing, he doesn't know. Seems to suit everyone but me, I found it sad and hope my children don't think this is normal way to not communicate. [/quote]

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