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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just had a baby 3 weeks ago and have a 4 year old as well. During the year ODD is in school, but apparently I didn't time my pregnancy right (kidding) since she is out of school and our whole routine is out of whack with me being on maternity leave. She isn't in camp (that's a whole separate story - she HATES camp) but does have activities/classes 3 days a week, and our nanny is great about taking her to the park, meeting up with other kids, etc. The problem is that now that I am in the picture, ODD only wants to be with me 24/7 and she FREAKS when I need to be with the baby and our nanny has to be the one to take her out. Like stage 5 meltdowns we haven't had in nearly a year. Our house is small and pretty open, so there is no separation for me and the baby to be in one part of the house and DD to be in another without her actively knowing we're there. When I take the baby into my room and close the door - DD will literally bang on the door screaming and crying. And it pains me to watch our nanny drag ODD out of the house screaming and crying to go to an activity because she wants to stay with me (or for me to take her).

What has resulted is me being with DD 80% of the day and the nanny being with YDD. It works, but I feel so bad that I am not getting to spend enough quality time with the baby, and I am also SOO exhausted from being up with the baby at night. For better or worse, I can't BF because of a medication I have to take so YDD is on formula which makes things easier logistically.

Has anyone death with something like this before? How should I handle, or do we just deal through the summer until ODD is back in school?[/quote]

You have a nanny and still have trouble taking care of your children?  Why the hell do helpless idiotic women have babies?  You are ridiculous.[/quote]

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