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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good luck OP.  I don't think you will ever really be friends, because what you are putting your ex and your children through is not the act of a friend.

Why do you want to be friends, beyond being amicable co-parents?  Is it to convince yourself that you didn't really hurt him?  My mom cheated on my dad and for the past 25 years she has insisted that she, my dad, and her co-cheater are all the best of friends.  We're all a big happy family and nobody minds that she cheated.  We just don't spend time together because my dad is too busy.  It's how she copes with the cognitive dissonance, but it irritates everyone else.  It's enough that you cheated and broke up the family.  Leave the poor man alone.  He can find other friends.[/quote]

I agree with this. You are deluding yourself if you think he should want to or will be friends with you after what you've done. You need to own the damage you've caused, and hope for the best, which is that you are both polite and kind.

I had an amicable divorce and we've coparented and been good friends for 20 years. It's possible, as long as no one screwed over anyone, which is not your case. His wife does have a jealous streak, though, so we limit our interactions out of respect to her and the peace and health of their marriage.[/quote]

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