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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be divorced within a few months and am in my early 50s.  I had been married just over 30 years ... learned my husband had been cheating on me the entire time (with a man no less).

So.  We had always dreamed of retiring to a lovely island in the SC low country.  It is an island populated by seemingly happy retired couples.  I still long to retire there in another 8-10 years, but I wonder how it will be to be single in a community of couples.  For those already retired and living in such a community, do you have any advice for me?

I am not even sure what my hesitation is.  Are singles welcomed?  Will I be odd woman out all the time?  Maybe by then I will be more used to being single and these thoughts will seem completely ridiculous.  Definitely not what I envisioned for my golden years.[/quote]

Sorry about this.  How did you finally figure this out? Did you suspect at all? How are you emotionally?[/quote]

OP here.  I always knew he was lying to me about his whereabouts and activities.  But because the lies never seemed to be about women, I figured it was odd behavior but not a threat to our marriage.  Learning that he was bisexual cast all the lies in a completely new light ... it was the key that opened one thousand locks.  It is a shocking revelation, obviously, and has completely tainted past happy memories, destroyed the present, and completely changed my future dreams.  Taking immediate action to remove him from my life has been the most helpful in regaining my emotional health.  Years and years of lying was effecting me more than I realized, so having him gone has improved life in many unexpected ways.

Thanks to all for the location suggestions ... I will check them out!  Ironically, I already live just outside of Fairhope and I agree it is lovely.  But it is too far from my family and many friends so I would very much like to move "back north" when I can.  [/quote]

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