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[quote=Anonymous]My parent died this year and I mostly feel relief that he isn't alive. It took away some anxiety I have. I know how that sounds to people that have decent parents, but he was very physically and emotionally abusive from the day I was born. I went for therapy over the years, set boundaries and eventually just slipped out of his life for the last 10 years. He was horrible in my childhood and I gave him too many opportunites. He kept hurting me and my children until enough was enough. He was sick the last couple of years and I didn't go see him. He's an extreme narcissistic sociopath, very abusive. He may have been sick, but he was still the same horrible man. More therapy helped because I worried that I might regret something after he died. I went through grieving our relationship before he was even sick. I also wrote a letter to him, NOT to give him, just for me to say good bye while he was still alive.  Understand - he didn't ever see the letter, but it was closure for me.

I feel for you, it's rough. I really worried while he was sick that I deal with it right because death is final. I have no regrets! He used to say that about himself - that he didn't waste time with regrets!   [/quote]

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