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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a new coworker in the office.

She comes to my desk often with her doubts and I always help her.
Even when I am busy, I just took out time and helped her. If I did not know the answer, I found out and then explained it to her.
went out of my way to help her.
I wondered why she does not go to anyone else with her doubts.
There are days I could not do any of my work at office because she kept stopping by or messaging me her questions.

A few things happened:

1) she had a doubt and I explained it to her. Then she asked if I can help her complete that work. I helped her complete that work.
In the status meeting, she told manager that she is still working on the issue and has not figured it out yet.
what she said is not true.

2) I see emails going back and forth relating to a project.
I did not understand something that she mentioned in one of the emails and asked her what that means.
she responded "God knows...please ask xyz". 
I was surprised by her curt answer.

3) [b]When I am working at my desk, she just sneaks up on me. I do not realize that she is sitting behind me in a chair and watching my computer screen as I have my headphones on.
Then when I turn for something, she is there. she grins and asks if I am working on so and so task. She has done this at least thrice and each time I am surprised to find her quietly sitting behind me.
she wants to know everything about the project I am working on. what tools to use, what documentation i am reading and who assigned the work ....[/b]

4) when I am in the middle of a conversation with a coworker, she just interrupts the conversation and says some random thing.

why is she doing this? is she just being insensitive or is she taking advantage?
No one at work seems to realize this because she only comes to my desk (for the past 2 weeks).
she never thanks or acknowledges the help in status meeting or in email.
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It could be that she doesn't feel comfortable approaching anyone else (or is there anyone else in your office doing work similar to you?) and realizes how often she has to come to ask you things. So maybe she knows she is bothering you and doesn't want to interrupt when she comes over, waits until you turn around and notice her before asking whatever she came to ask. She may be anxious to be able to do the work on her own quickly so asking so many questions. She may also have ADHD or some other social/behavioral issues where she is unaware of how her bahavior is perceived by others.[/quote]

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