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[quote=Anonymous]Baby is due in October, and it's the first grandkid for both sides of the aisle. DH's older bro and wife are a definite no on kids, and my own younger sib is a wishywashy on whether she'll want to raise any herself. We're planning on two kids, but they may end up being the only kids in our family if things continue like this.

This has given rise to a lot of comments like "my baby" from our sibs, to which, I admit, we're probably a little overly rankled on. We get that this kid is gonna be precious to everyone, and probably spoiled to some point. But it's [i]our [/i]baby, not theirs. They've even taken to mentioning things about how I should be taking care of myself and doing certain things to remain healthy; my own sister gets annoyed with me for "poking her nephew" when I'm trying to figure out where he is positioned in utero.  They keep saying they can't wait to teach him certain things (we're fine with that), but they act like they need to be around for every first and that they want to be active in most of his firsts (eating certain foods, walking, etc.).

Um, no. If you wanted all those kid moments, you could have decided to have children of your own, is how we feel. Are we being completely unreasonable? Not that we don't want them around, but how to get them to understand that we're not having a child for them to live vicariously through us? We've been trying to hint as such, but our sibs a very touchy people. As in, cold shoulders, eye rolls, hurt expressions, the whole gambit. Just at a mere hint.[/quote]

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