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[quote=Anonymous]How did it go?

I'm fantasizing about buying a large house in the 'burbs to "co-house" with my brother and his small family. We each have a child the same age (one boy, one girl), and we have one more child who is younger. They might have one more child but not anytime soon. We are probably done but considering foster or adoption for an older child once our children are older. We all get along really well, and I miss having family nearby. Our mom died years ago, and neither of us is close to our dad. My in-laws, while only 4 hours away, almost never come to visit.

My brother and his wife worked in very low paying non-profit jobs for a while, but he is working on getting his JD now. He's currently at the top of his class but at a lower ranked school (think like William and Mary level). So when he's done with school in 2 years, he'll be looking for a job, and DC is one of his possible targets because both of them could more easily find jobs here. They are very financially responsible but have very little savings. We are similar although better off since we are older and have worked longer. Our parenting styles are similar, though we are probably a bit stricter. Each of us are okay with aunts and uncles correcting our children.

I think it would be awesome to find a house big enough for everyone to have their own rooms (with same gender kids probably sharing) and baths, with a couple of separate living spaces for adults and children. Possibly a MIL suite or apartment arrangement. I love the Burke/West Springfield area for the schools or Vienna for the proximity to public transportation. Most likely if we did this, we would buy a house we could afford on our own, and then have them pay a  slightly below market rent  plus share of utilities. I could see us splitting groceries, meal prep, drop offs and pick ups, etc. I would assume at some point they would probably want to get a place of their own, once they've had time to save up, and I'm okay with that. We are in a house now that we like, but it's small and in a poorly performing school pyramid. We were thinking of moving in the next couple of years anyway. DH really likes the idea, too, and even proposed it this time around, since we're starting to casually look at neighborhoods, etc.

Tl;dr I want to co-house with my brother and his family. Good idea or not?[/quote]

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