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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She blames me for everything that is wrong in her life.  She says she is "depressed" because I "allowed her" to "destroy her family."  She's made some bad choices in her life - all of which I attribute to her BPD.  Honestly, most men in my situation  would have walked long ago.  I don't need to go into the details of what she has put me through.

Do I believe she is depressed?  Probably?  Will she get help? No.

I wrote back with what I thought was a very validating response, acknowledging her feelings, etc.  All the the things the BPD guide books tell me to do to improve communication. She shot back the above and added she wants a divorce.

Fine.  Go see a lawyer, I'll happily sign anything as long as I get may fair share of the assets.

[b]How anyone with a six figure income (just her) and millions of dollars in investments, beautiful children, not lacking for anything materially can feel her life is "destroyed."  [/b]

Maybe I am missing something? [/quote]

I understand that emotional 'outburst' but you seem to be an intelligent person so when you read what you wrote can you see those things are meaningless as to feelings and a sense of self worth?

Additionally, some people have little holes in their self esteem/fulfillment bucket and others (like her) are riddled with large holes. The key thought here in your situation though is what you wrote[b] "Will she get help? No."[/b] Therefore you have to set your boundaries, especially emotionally, and come to some decision as to how far you are willing to travel on this.[/quote]

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