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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is very interesting.

When dh and I first started dating this was very hard for me. All of my friends who had boyfriends had the experience where the guy pursued them hard and showered them with texts/presents/ hour long phone calls etc.

Meanwhile dh and I started a little differently. My dh was an extremely shy, introverted type of guy. When we hung out, he would flirt with me and show me a lot of interest. And then one or two weeks would go by and I'd just get random texts from him. On dates we'd have a great time but in between dates a week or two would go by and he had would sometimes just not even call me.

After a few months of this. I had enough. It had been a stretch of 2 weeks and his friend from out of town was staying with him. We hadn;t seen each other in 2 weeks. I thought we could all get drinks or dinner or something. I text him and say I hadnt seem him in 2 weeks and I miss him and would like to see him. He said he had a friend frm out of town and it would be rude to abandon him and he will see me after he leaves.

I hung up on him. And a few days later asked told him I dont want to see him again. He was surprised and said that he has loved hanging out with me and is so hurt that I feel this way. I told him I cannot date someone who sees me once every 2-3 weeks. He said thats all he is used to based on previous relationships and he did not want to appear needy.

Since then we had weekly  2-3 dates until it progressed. To be honest, I think I fell harder for him at first than he did for me. I could only tell he truly loved me around the 6 month mark where he made an active effor to see me/call me etc.

So it IS possible a guy is into you but doesnt act like a textbook lover.[/quote]

Np and this is a bit nosy so feel free to ignore, but how is your sex life? Does he initiate often enough for your liking or is he more laid back in that area too? [/quote]

This is pp. Yes, actually. Our sex life is awesome! He is an excellent lover. He WAS shy in the bedroom initially. Lack of confidence/ afraid to let me down.Now, after some practice he is so diligent and eager to please and I get the best orgasms of my life.

It all showed that his hesitance in reaching out when we were first dating had to do with his inability to deal with the unpredictability of dating. What if he came on strong and I said no? Believe it or not, some guys actually ARE shy and just need a little bit of extra attention to tell them its okay to pursue you.[/quote]

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