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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP, that would not be comforting to find.  I think it's not good to be reminded of this person every time you start typing a word beginning with that letter.  I think I would probably let your spouse know that you are seeing this name every time you type things with the letter, and I would do it in a non-confrontational way, just a matter of fact way.  You could ask if everything's okay with the ex, and leave it at that.  I don't know if it's anything you really want to get into with him at this point, but kind of just let your spouse know so you don't feel like you're keeping a secret.  I actually think it might be good for your sanity if your spouse cleared his/her searches if you really believe nothing bad is going on (aside from some old fantasizing), so you don't have to see the ex's name all of the time.

I will say that fantasies can be harmful sometimes if they take away from working on a relationship.  It's totally okay to have some fantasies, but it's not good to get lost in them to the extent it is an escape from a real relationship.
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