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[quote=Anonymous]married 8 years, 1 kids. spouse googles ex (or things related to ex) weekly, and probably a lot more--this is only what turned up on my computer, which is often shared, not on spouse's other devices which accounts for 80% of use.

fwiw, I did not snoop until the ex's name kept popping up whenever I started typing a word beginning with the same first letter. Finally looked at google account history and saw this pattern for the last year.

do I let this pass? bring it up?  I'm honestly not sure how I feel myself. Our marriage is okay, could be more passionate.

Spouse hasn't done anything wrong. There is no crime in googling, I trust spouse is not cheating, or anything like that. It is more that it reinforces some anxiety I feel that even after marriage and kids, spouse is still more hung up on ex than in love with me. I mean, I google exes, but maybe once or twice a year. This particular ex is also a hot button issue for me. Most I wouldn't care about. But spouse's strong feelings for this ex was one cause of an early break up we experienced; spouse also made plans to see ex without informing me (I found out and got very angry). But again, its not that spouse has done anything wrong or is untrustworthy. I just feel sad, like even all all this time, the fantasy of the past is more alluring than what we have. Am I being silly? Should I drop this? Or is it worth bringing up--not accusingly, but getting to the real issues. I am almost afraid of hearing that I'm right. That I've always been second best. [/quote]

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